‘There was never a Paston poor, a Heydon a coward or a Cornwallis a fool’. An old Norfolk saying.

The Pastons cannily made a series of advantageous and strategic marriages enabling them to swiftly ascend the social ladder. Frieze of a Medieval Wedding – Artist Thomas Stottard. Yale Center for British Art.
The Pastons, a Norfolk family originating from the village of Paston, are mostly remembered for their vast archive of letters now known as The Paston Letters. The family line we are concerned with begun with Clement Paston who died in 1419 and ground to an ending in the 18th century with the death of William Paston, 2nd Earl of Yarmouth 1654-1732 who died without issue. Their story has been much told and can be found in depth elsewhere while the Paston letters are now assessable to all online both in medieval and modern English. However I want to focus here, in brief summary, on the family during the 15th century and especially the turbulent period known as the Wars of the Roses.
CLEMENT PASTON (c.1355 – 1419)
We should begin with Clement. We do not know if he was the first Paston to settle in the village of that name but he certainly is the first of interest to us. He was a hardworking fellow, a peasant farmer, described as a ‘good ‘pleyn husbondman,’ who owned a ‘little poor watermill running by a little river’ and ‘who went at one plough both winter and summer’ riding ‘the two miles to the mill on the bar horsbak wyth hys corn under hym and brought home meal again under him’ (1).

Medieval Water Mill. From the Luttrell Psalter c.1320-1340.
Clement’s advancement may have been aided by being born soon after the horrors of the Black Death which had created a subsequent ‘golden age’ for labourers with not only ‘the prospect of higher wages for those that survived the plague but also the possibility to acquire further bargaining power in the labour market’ (2).

Peasants ploughing with horses. Luttrell Psalter c.1335-1340.
The ensuing labour shortage meant that workers could demand, and get, higher wages. Clement took full advantage of this, his increased status leading to a rewarding marriage to Beatrice Somerton/Goneld. The couple would have a son, William, (1378-1444) who Clement, now more financially secure, was able to send to grammar school although at times he was compelled to borrow to do so. I will return to this later.
Although, prima facie, Clement led an exceedingly successful and productive life, things did not always run as smooth as a nut and he sometimes found himself embroiled with the rumbustious rough and tumble of a medieval peasant’s life. At the height of the Peasant’s Revolt in 1381 we find Clement entangled ‘in an altercation with the Abbot of St Benet’s men in North Waltham. In 1413, thirty two years later, Clement was still at odds with the Abbot when he was accused of stealing the Abbot’s fish from the ponds near North Walsham’ (3).
However Clement managed to survive the shenanigans of the Peasants Revolt and, at the time of his death in 1419, had ‘amassed over 100 acres of land and had requested a burial next to his wife Beatrice, near the north door in Paston Church (4).

St Margaret’s Church, Paston. Burial place of several Pastons including Clement and his wife, Beatrice. With thanks to National Churchs Trust. Click here for more.
William Paston (1378-1444)
We have seen that becoming more financially prosperous had enabled Clement to send his son, William, to grammar school albeit with the aid of loans. However it was Beatrice’s brother, Geoffrey Somertown/Goneld (d.1416), a local solicitor, who also must have noted potential in William because he funded him to go to the Inns of Court in London to be trained in the law. William did not waste this golden opportunity and in the fullness of time would go on to become a Justice of Common Pleas. William had successfully manoeuvred his family into the ‘gentry class’. He waited until he had turned forty in 1420 and well established before marrying. His bride was Agnes Berry, daughter and coheir of Sir Edmund Berry of Harlingbury Hall, in Hertfordshire. ‘Agnes brought her husband three manors in East Anglia and, coming from a well established family, graced the Pastons with the distinction they had hitherto lacked’ (5).
William and Agnes had several sons, John Paston I (1421-1466), Edmund (1425-1449), William (1436-1496) and Clement (1441-1468). They had just one daughter, Elizabeth (1429-1488) who suffered severe domestic abuse inflicted by her mother. See her story below.
William would also utilise his now privileged position to buy land cheaply. In 1419 he purchased Oxnead Hall from William Clopton of Long Melford, settling the property in jointure on Agnes when he married her the following year. Oxnead would become the Paston’s principal residence where they would reside for the next 350 years. He also nurtured ‘a relationship with the dukes of Norfolk. Hence when he died in 1444 all seemed set fair for the firm establishment of the family within the local hierarchy’ (6).
To all intents and purposes it would seem the Pastons were on a roll having astonishingly evolved in just two short generations from peasantry to aristocracy (7). What could possibly go wrong? We will return to this point later.
AGNES BERRY (1378 – 1444)
As we have seen, Agnes Berry, a heiress who bought her husband several properties, was a perfect match for the ambitious up and coming William. Twenty years younger than him, she would give him five children. She was also on her maternal side related to Sir John Fastolf of Caister (1380-1459) a veteran of the French Wars.
Several letters written by Agnes survive in the archive including this one to her husband. Here it is in both modern and medieval English:
Dear Husband,
My best wishes to you, and thanks be to God, I’m sending you good news of the arrival and the bringing home this evening of the young lady from Reedham that you know about, through the arrangements that you made. For the first meeting between son John and the young lady, she was very polite to him and said he was very like you. I am hopeful that all will go well between them without our pushing a formal agreement.
The parson of Stockton said that if you would buy her a dress, her mother would provide a fur to go with it. The dress needs to be bought, and I’d suggest a good blue or reddish-brown.
Could you also get me some piping for a dress, two pieces? Your fish ponds are doing well.
May the Holy Trinity look after you. I’m writing this myself in a hurry at Paston on Wednesday in the week of the third Sunday after Easter, as I don’t have a good clerk to write it for me.
Yours, Agnes
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To my worshepefull housbond, W. Paston, be this letter takyn
Dere housbond, I recomaunde me to yow, &c. Blessyd be God I sende yow gode tydynggs of the comyng, and the brynggyn hoom, of the gentylwomman that ye wetyn of fro Redham, this same nyght, acordyng to poyntmen that ye made ther for yowr self.
And as for the furste aqweyntaunce be twhen John Paston and the seyde gentylwomman, she made hym gentil cher in gyntyl wise, and seyde, he was verrayly your son. And so I hope ther shall nede no gret trete be twyxe hym.
The parson of Stocton toold me, yif ye wolde byin her a goune, here moder wolde yeve ther to a godely furre. The goune nedyth for to be had; and of colour it wolde be a godely blew, or erlys a bryghte sanguine.
I prey yow do byen for me ij. pypys of gold. Your stewes do weel.
The Holy Trinite have you in governaunce.
Wretyn at Paston, in hast, the Wednesday next after Deus qui errantibuss for defaute of a good secretarye.
Yowres, Agn Paston
This letter written on the 20 April 1440 refers to the young lady who will eventually become her daughter-in-law, Margaret Mautby. There is also a later letter written on the 4 February 1445 to her son Edmund who is away at Law School which begun with some useful advice:
For the attention of Edmund Paston of Cliffords Inn, London
Dear son, I send you my best wishes and advise you to consider every day your father’s advice to learn the law; he’s told you many times that whoever lives at Paston should know how to defend himself….
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To Edmond Paston of Clyffordis Inn, in London, be this Lettre take.
To myn welbelovid sone, I grete yow wel, and avyse yow to thynkk onis of the daie of youre fadris counseyle to lerne the lawe, for he seyde manie tymis that ho so ever schuld dwelle at Paston, schulde have nede to conne defende hym selfe.
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JOHN PASTON I (1421-1466)
John Paston I, as we have seen, was the brother of Elizabeth, his much battered sister. He married another heiress, Margaret Mautby (d.1484). Unsurprisingly he also chose the law for a career. He was aged just twenty-two when his father died in 1444. This left the family vulnerable in a time of ever mounting turmoil and instability in Norfolk which is nothing less than depressing to read about. The first ominous sign of things to come was the loss of the Paston manor of East Beckham, granted to William shortly before his death. A John Mariot – whose father had owned the manor in 1414 – and had occupied the manor in 1441 – now took it back. Properties gained were lost and fought over sometimes for decades the notable being Caister Castle, to which we will return to later. The buck for all this bitter strife should land fairly and squarely on John Paston I who had gained the friendship and confidence of the aging Sir John Fastolf via becoming his solicitor. When Fastolf died in 1459 it was claimed that he had, rather surprisingly, made a nuncupative will – i.e. an oral deathbed will – leaving everything to John Paston I. John now ‘miraculously found himself the main beneficiary of Fastolf’s will. Sir John’s cheated heirs, most notably Sir William Yelverton, Thomas Howes and the de la Poles, didn’t believe in coincidence either, and contested the will. When John Paston Snr died in 1466, the legal wrangles were still unresolved’ and a fine can of worms for his sons, confusingly both Johns – John II and John III.
It’s therefore unsurprising that John Paston I would manage to trigger the not insignificant wrath of John Howard, (c.1425?-1485) later duke of Norfolk, and a cousin to the Mowbray duke, causing him to be described by a John Jenney ‘as wode as a Wilde bullok‘. Howard’s first wife, Catherine Moleyns, made a robust remark intended for John Paston’s ears, which was helpfully forwarded on to him by his brother Clement, who wrote urgently advising that he should get to where he had been summoned without delay and with a good excuse as:
‘Howard’s wife made her bost that if any of her husbands men might come to yow ther yulde goe noe penny for your life: and Howard hath with the Kings a great fellowship’ (8).
John Paston did indeed get himself to London and was promptly thrown into the Fleet prison for a short while.
ELIZABETH PASTON/POYNINGS/BROWNE (c.1429-1488)
Elizabeth, the daughter of William and Agnes, was the victim of harsh domestic violence meted out upon her by her mother. What triggered this callous treatment is unknown. It may have been a product borne of frustration generated by Elizabeth’s failure in making a suitable marriage for whatever reasons. We do know that she was anxious, because of the intolerable situation at home, for one proposed match to take place The suitor in this case was a much older man, Stephen Scrope, stepson to the wealthy Sir John Fastolf, who is said to have had a facial deformity and with questions hanging over his inheritance. A relative, Elizabeth Clere, who was in the loop as to what was going on, felt the need to intercede on the 29 June 1449 when she wrote to Elizabeth’s brother, John I, pleading with him to get his finger out, get it sorted and break the stalemate unless he could find a better suitor other than Scrope.
‘Scrope said to me that if he marries and has a son and heir, his married daughter will have 50 marks of his income and no more, and therefore cousin, it seems to me you might be advised to get a better match for your sister ….. If you can get a better match, I would advise you to do so in as short time as you decently can, because she was never in such sorrow as she is nowadays. She is not allowed to speak to anyone, whoever comes, and she is unable to speak to my man or to her mother’s servants unless she manages to deceive her mother. Since Easter she has usually been beaten once or twice a day, and sometimes thrice a day, and her head has been cut two or three places…… She sent a message to me by Friar Newton in great secrecy, and begged me to send you a letter about her trouble, and to ask you to be a good brother to her because she trusts you. She says that if his papers show that his children and hers will inherit and she will get a reasonable settlement, she has heard so much of his birth and estate, if you agree, she will take him whether her mother wants her to or not, even though she’s told that he is a plain man….’ (9).
Fearful of invoking the rage of Agnes should she come upon the letter Elizabeth Clare requested that John I burn it after reading it. He chose not to do so but whether Alice found the letter or not, the marriage did not take place. Other suitors would fall before the first hurdle but who was to blame for this state of affairs can now only be guessed. Elizabeth remained single until in 1458 when, aged about thirty, she finally married Robert Poynings (c.1419-1461) with whom she had one son, Edward. On 3 January 1459, Elizabeth wrote to her mother to remind her to pay the remaining one hundred marks owed to her husband, as part of their marriage settlement. Whether this was a love match we do not know but she was widowed when Poynings was killed, for York, at the Second Battle of St Albans in February 1461. Ten years would pass before in 1471, she married Sir George Browne. This marriage was of longer duration until George was executed for taking part in the Buckingham rebellion against Richard III in 1483. Elizabeth died a wealthy woman and left the bulk of her wealth to her daughter Mary Browne (10).
JOHN II AND III
The legal mess left behind in 1466 by their father centred primarily upon Caistor Castle, described as the jewel in the crown of Sir John Fastolf’s estates, with the brothers and their widowed mother left to face the wrath of Falstoff’s heirs. Things took a turn for the worse when the disgruntled heirs sold their rights to Caister to the Mowbray Duke of Norfolk who had long coveted it. In late 1469 Norfolk besieged Caistor with, it has been claimed, 3000 men while John III was resident with a small band of retainers including locals, servants, a few French mercenaries and one Thomas Stompys, who was handless but willing to shoot a crossbow for a ‘noble’ i.e. a gold coin (11). The number of Norfolk’s men may have been exaggerated but undoubtedly it would have run into several hundreds. The siege ended after three weeks with acceptance of Norfolk’s terms of surrender:
John Paston and his said fellowship being in the said manor shall depart and go out of the said manor without delay, and make thereof deliverance to such persons as we will assign, the said fellowship having their lives and goods, horses and harness, and other goods being in the keeping of the said John Paston, except guns, crossbows, and quarrels, and all of the hostelments to the said manor annexed and belonging… (12)
This incident led to some of the most interesting letters in the collection describing the dire situation Margaret and John III found themselves enveloped in and the blame she laid on her elder son, John II who seems to have been sequestered in London at the time. It was not until the duke’s death in January 1476 that John II, taking advantage of the situation, took back Caistor. Ultimately Caistor was won back by the Pastons not by sheer might but legal process. John II was only to enjoy Caistor for three short years before he fell victim to the plague while living in London in November 1479. You can read more about the siege of Caister here.
A LETTER FOR VALENTINE DAY – ‘I WOLD BE THE MERYEST MAYDEN ON GROUNDE…’
However the Paston letters also contained a lighter side and one of the earliest Valentine Day letters to survive is numbered amongst them. Dictated in February 1477 by Margaret Brewes, the future wife of John Paston III (b.c.1444.d.c.1503) to Thomas Kela, the clerk of her father, Sir Thomas Brewes. Unfortunately Kela did not leave his thoughts behind on young Margaret’s mawkish epistle. Margaret was concerned that her father was refusing to budge on increasing her dowry. However, nothing daunted, her mother, Elizabeth – complaining that Margaret was driving her around the bend – I may never hafe rest nyght ner day, for (Margaret) callyng and cryeng uppon to brynge the saide mater to effecte, &c.’ acting as matchmaker, invited John to join the Brewes for the weekend that Valentine Day fell on. She wrote to him:
‘Friday is St Valentine’s Day, and every bird chooseth him a mate; and if it like you to come on Thursday at night and so purvey you that you may abide there til Monday, I trust to God that you shall so speak to my husband; and I shall pray that we shall bring the matter to a conclusion’
Dr Hannes Kleineke notes ‘Of this Margery was aware when she dictated her billet-doux, dripping with saccharine verses of which any modern card manufacturer would be proud’ (13).
Original edition:
Unto my ryght welebelovyd Voluntyn, John Paston, Squyer, be this bill delyvered, &c.
Ryght reverent and wurschypfull, and my ryght welebeloved Voluntyne I recomande me unto yowe, ffull hertely desyring to here of yowr welefare, whech I beseche Almyghty God long for to preserve un to Hys plesur, and yowr herts desyre. And yf it please yowe to here of my welefar, I am not in good heele of body, nor of herte, nor schall be tyll I her ffrom yowe
'For there wottys no creature what peyn that I endure, And for to be deede, I dare it not dyscure'
And my lady my moder hath labored the mater to my ffadur full delygently, but sche can no mor gete then ye knowe of, for the whech God knowyth I am full sory. But yf that ye loffe me, as I tryste verely that ye do, ye will not leffe me therefor; for if that ye hade not halfe the lyvelode that ye hafe, for to do the grettest labur that any woman on lyve myght, I wold not forsake yowe.
'And yf ye commande me to kepe me true wherever I go, I wyse I will do all my myght yowe to love and never no mo. And yf my freends say, that I do amys, Thei schal not me let so for to do, Myne herte me bydds ever more to love yowe Truly over all erthely thing, And yf thei be never so wroth, I tryst it schall be better in tyme commyng'.
No more to yowe at this tyme, but the Holy Trinite hafe yowe in kepyng.And I besech yowe that this bill be not seyn of none erthely creatur safe only your selffe, &c.
And thys letter was indyte at Topcroft, with full hevy herte, &c
By your own,
Margery Brews
Modern version:
My dear beloved Valentine, I commit myself to you again and look forward to hearing how you are. I pray that God will keep you well and give you your heart’s desire. If you want to know how I am, I can say that neither my body nor my heart will be in good health until I hear from you.
For no-one knows what pain I endure And I would rather die than let it be known.
My mother has tried very hard to win my father round, but I am sorry to say she has made no more progress than you know of already. But if you love me, as I hope very much you do, you will not leave me because of it. I can say that even if you were half as wealthy as you are, and I had to work twice as hard as any woman alive to help support us, I would not forsake you.
My heart tells me more and more to love you Truly, above all earthly things, And however badly they go I trust everything will work out well for us.
I have no time to write more, but I pray that the Holy Trinity will protect you. Please do not show this letter to anyone. It is for your eyes only.
Written at Topcroft with a heavy heart by your own
Margery Brews
Margery Brewe’s billet-doux to her beau, John Paston III, signed off ‘By your own M.B….. February 1477. Photo thanks to news.artnet.com. Now in BritishLibrary.
A further letter, also written in February of 1477, swiftly followed, bewailing the fact that her father was standing his ground, unable or unwilling to up her dowry from 100 pounds and 50 marks.
To my ryght welebelovyd cosyn, John Paston, Swyer, be this letter delyveryd, &c.
Ryght wurschypfull and welebelovyd Volentyne, in my moste umble wyse, I recommande me un to yowe, &c. And hertely I thanke yowe for the lettur whech that ye sende me be John Bekarton, wherby I undyrstonde and knowe, that ye be purposyd to come to Topcroft in schorte tyme, and withowte any erand or mater, but only to hafe a conclusyon of the mater betwyx my fader and yowe; I wolde be most glad of any creatur on lyve, so that the mater myght growe to effect. And ther as ye say, and ye come and fynde the mater no more towards you then ye dyd afortyme, ye wold no more put my fader and my lady my moder to no cost ner besenesse, for that cause, a good wyle aftur, wech causyth myne herte to be full hevy; and yf that ye come, and the mater take to none effecte, then schuld I be meche mor sory and full of hevynesse.
And as for my selfe, I hafe done and undyrstond in the mater that I can or may, as Good knowyth; and I let yowe pleynly undyrstond, that my fader wyll no mor money parte with all in that behalfe, but an C_li._ and l. marke, whech is ryght far fro the acomplyshment of yowr desyre.
Wherfore, yf that ye cowde be content with that good, and my por persone, I wold be the meryest mayden on grounde; and yf ye thynke not yowr selffe so satysfyed, or that ye myght hafe mech mor good, as I hafe undyrstonde be yowe afor; good, trewe, and lovyng volentyne, that ye take no such labur uppon yowe, as to come more for that mater, but let it passe, and never more to be spokyn of, as I may be yowr trewe lover and bedewoman duryng my lyfe.
No more un to yowe at thys tyme, but Almyghty Jesus preserve yowe, bothe body and sowle, &c.
Be your Voluntyne,
MARGERY BREWS.

The second letter. Also dated February 1477. British Library. Photo thanks to new.artnet.com.
Thankfully Elizabeth’s ploy worked and the couple, with Margery’s feelings reciprocated, married before 1477 drew to a close. The love between the couple endured the passage of time for, after being married several years, we find Margery still penning tender letters to her husband. One was addressed to ‘Myne owne swete hert’ , and closed: ‘Sir, I pray you, if you tarry long at London that it will please you to send for me, for I think it a long time since I lay in your arms (I4).

Sir John Fenn, antiquarian, produced and published this edition of the Paston letters in the 18th century.
“The sufferings of warriors, the distresses of private life, occasioned by so tempestuous a season, and the concise rapidity of the narratives, will present a truer picture of that turbulent period than could be exhibited by the artful pencil of a sedate historian.”
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- William of Worcestre, Itineraries (trans. J. Harvey)
- A story half told/Caister Castle. castlestudiestrust.com
- https://historyofparliament.com/2018/02/14/a-medieval-mps-valentines-day-letters/Dr Hannes Kleineke
- https://historyofparliament.com/2018/02/14/a-medieval-mps-valentines-day-letters/Dr Hannes Kleineke





















































